Living Happily Never After ; the Void Between the Dream of Honeymoon and the Reality of Marriage has to Be Filled by Reclaiming Friendship, the Birthright of Every Couple

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Your hands were made to cup my face!" a delighted young lover exclaims in the American musical Finian's Rainbow. This is among the most beautiful thoughts I've come across on the awakening of love and sexual desire.

Yet, a sag in emotions, something like a concavity of despair, even depression, often follows passion. The INDIA TODAY AC Nielsen- ORG-MARG survey announces that post-marital depression is on the rise, through every phase of married life. Why is it so? The phenomena that attend erotic love interest me, not so much their sociological manifestations, though various life situations impact differently, and, of course, should be studied. I, however, see the issue primarily as a philosophical one: how we view ourselves, and, profoundly, what is our understanding of the nature of sexual passion. A degree of ordinariness creeps up on us as we move away in time from the intimacy of lovemaking, from its dark and sparkling terrain. Honeymooners experience this even as they discover the textures of pleasure. With the birth of erotic love come some of its withdrawal symptoms; loss is inscribed into its first cry.

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Living Happily Never After ; the Void Between the Dream of Honeymoon and the Reality of Marriage has to Be Filled by Reclaiming Friendship, the Birthright of Every Couple

Once back home, we are made to buckle down to the institutionalised relationship of marriage. We have to morph into everyday beings. Saddened, we descend from dense clouds of desire to fall into the gridlock of routine. We need to adapt and accept changes while our inner and outer geographies of ...

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